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Tribute | We remember Frankie McCullough
I
have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept
the faith.
Remember
me when I am gone away
Gone far away into the silent land;
Yet if you should forget me for awhile
And afterward remember to grieve;
For if the darkness shall leave
A vestige of the thought I once had.
Better by far you should forget and smile,
Than you should remember and be sad.
Adapted
from Robert B. Luce in Lifelines
Submit a tribute for Frankie McCullough.
Melissa
Contributed on September 29, 2008
I am so sorry for the loss of Frankie! I thank her now for sharing her story with all of us on the internet who access this site. It has deeply touched me and I plan on telling her story tonight at school. I am presenting a speech on the importance of every women getting a pap smear every single year. Frankie is right, cancer does not discriminate!
Lisa Starr <lisastarr@cox.net> from San Diego
Contributed on May 12, 2008
To Frankie's family,
I found Frankie's story while doing research for an essay about HPV and cervical cancer, and keep coming back here because it moves me so deeply. Frankie was so obviously full of life and love, and truly an inspiration to others on this site as well as to people like me, who never knew her. She continues to touch people even years after her passing. I'm particularly struck that she didn't write angry or self-pitying words even though she had more of a right than most of us to do so. Instead, her experience seemed to galvanize her to send a message that one's youth does not impart invincibility, and apparently worked hard to get that message out to as many young women as she could before she died.
Researching stories like Frankie's is the hardest part of my job, because it's incredibly sad to learn about people who were taken too early.
The HPV vaccine came too late for Frankie, but it is not too late for millions of young women - if only they would take advantage of it. It's my job to get that message across to the many young women who read our books. Even after 6 months of trying, neither I nor our permissions person have been able to contact any of you to get your blessing to use Frankie's story for that purpose. For all logical reasons I should give up, and probably will have to, but something keeps bringing me back here every morning I sit down to write even though it makes me so sad every time. Maybe it's that I'm convinced she would have wanted the opportunity to help so many young women, or maybe it just seems so unfair that Frankie died so young. I'm not sure, but I thought you would want to know that her story is still inspiring people she never knew.
Sincerely,
Lisa Starr
Carol <carlat1@aol.com> from Illinois
Contributed on April 29, 2008
Thank you Frankie, for sharing your story, thoughts and ideas. I came here for my sister newly diagnosed adenocarcinoma stage 1b.
I had always felt invincible, even now today. I havn't been to a doctor in 5 years (I am 47).
Now with my daughter at age 18, and my sister with this diagnosis (not from HPV), I am going to take my daughter with me and visit the GYN.
You are still helping people Frankie in 2008 you are still getting your message out.
Tonight I am going to take a breather and look at the stars and thank you.
Lola Bogue <lolabogue@mac.com> from St. Louis, Missouri
Contributed on November 16, 2007
Frankie, my friend, you are in my thoughts, often. Your light shines on and so does your life, through many who loved you, and still do.
I hope you fly over my house with your beautiful wings!
With love,
Lola
S.E.S from USA
Contributed on November 26, 2006
Well. Frankie you did have my back. Through all the hard times in the past two plus years. I did it. I Beat it! Cervical Cancer needs to be gone. I am sorry you had to go through all you did.
Your story made me feel as if everything would be okay no matter what happened. I now wake up everyday, feeling so fortunate that I am alive.
I am thankful to women like you. Thank you for giving me the courage to face the fact that this could have been very bad. In a strange way, facing my own mortality was probably one of the best things that could have ever happened to me. The little things are precious.
"It is not the years in your life but the life in your years"-Albert Pines.
Frankie you had a lot of life in your years.
Lisa Atkinson <corjosgirl@yahoo.com> from Florida
Contributed on August 17, 2006
Family and friends of Frankie,
I just read Frankie's story and I'm so sad. I never had the honor of meeting her but, just reading her story I feel as if I know her. I had my first biopsy a month ago and I had some abnormal cells and I'm going in for my next biopsy soon. This is so scarey, Frankie must have been a really strong person. She's now in heaven sending down good thoughts to all of us going through this!! I know I will talk with her daily, her strength has given me hope.
God Bless,
Lisa
Surfsista
Contributed on November 6, 2005
I'm sitting here in front of my laptop with tears streaming down my face. I feel I know Frankie though I have never met her, and just found this web site today.
I have been deeply moved to the point of finally doing something about my own situation. For the last year I have been plagued by symptoms but have chosen to ignore them because I am self-employed and if I don't work, I don't get paid.
Well, I now see that I cannot afford "NOT" to check this out.
Thank you Frankie
S.E.S. <ses4@hotmail.com>
Contributed on May 6, 2005
I am posting this because I have begun to fight cancer, and I have talked to Frankie in my prayers MANY times since I found this site, and Frankie's section. I keep saying to myself and to Frankie (even though I never knew her in life, but I feel like I do) "If you can do this, no matter what my outcome is, I can do this". This stuff is scary, Frankie was young as am I, so it makes me feel even closer to her. I hope that I will survive this to educate people about this horrible cancer because Frankie did not. I want to let The McCullough Family and Friends know how sorry I am and that no family should ever have to lose someone to cancer or have to go thru this. My family is having such a hard time dealing with this, and they cannot imagine losing me, but we have to think about it, and that is scary. I told them of Frankie and gave them the link, and my Mom said she cried because she realizes that death is not to be feared, and she is now better educated as well about cervical cancer. Thanks Frankie, I know you have my back :) I will talk to you whenever I need to :)
DeAnna <DEANNAM@GUARDIANHEALTHCARE.ORG> from DALLAS TEXAS
Contributed on March 29, 2005
I WISH I COULD HAVE READ HER STORY EARLIER SO THAT MAYBE I COULD HAVON, YOU SEE SHE IS (WAS) SELF EMPLOYED AND REALLY COULD NOT STOP LONG ENOUGH TO GO TO THE DOCTOR, (CUZ IF YOU ARE NOT WORKING YOU ARE NOT MAKING ANY MONEY) GOD HELP US IN THIS COUNTRY TO TAKE CARE OF OUR OWN. SHE IS SUCH A BEAUTIFUL PERSON, AND HAD MANY TIMES INSPRIED ME TO KEEP TRYING AND TO KEEP CARING ( YOU SEE I AM ALSO A NURSE BY PROFESSION) AND SUCH STORIES AS FRANKIES (AND NOW MY FRIEND'S JUDY'S) BREAK MY HEART AND MY SPIRIT....I KNOW FRANKIE TOUCHED ALL OF YOU WITH LOVE AND KINDNESS...IF YOU LEARN NOTHING FROM HER ....PLEASE KNOW WE ARE NOT INVINCIBLE...GO TO THE DOCTOR WHEN YOU HEAR THAT LITTLE VOICE.....IT MAY SAVE YOUR LIFE. I WISH YOU ALL PEACE IN YOUR HEART AND THE SERENITY OF KNOWING SHE LOVED YOU ALL.
S.E.S. <ses4@hotmail.com> from New Jersey, USA
Contributed on March 20, 2005
Hello. I am at a loss for words, but I wanted to say I am sorry. It is hard enough losing someone, especially if it is before their time. I recently had a colposcopy to investigate ASCUS-SIL cells, and it is scary, but knowing other women, even if they lost the battle atleast fought it bravely. I am sorry that life handed Frankie a very bad hand. This happens all too often. I hope that someday, very soon, they can find a cure for cerivcal cancer and HPV (which is a known cause for CC). After a colposcopy you are never the same, it is a hard fact, but it is the truth, you live life wondering. But it is going to be okay because I know that I have brave women like Frankie looking down at me cheering me on. Frankie probably said the same thing, "No matter what this is I will be ok with it and I will fight it no matter what". She fought and atleast she gives other women like myself, who will forever be in debt to her for her brave fight. Thanks for everything. I hope that someday this will be cured. God Bless.....
Jewell <amcfan33@yahoo.com> from California
Contributed on Febuary 2, 2005
I came accross your site doing research.Im sorry for you lost.
I have a close cousin who has been diagnosed with advanced cervical cancer,she got transported to ICU on Sat..is inchohearnt and on dialysis.
I was just looking for some kind of support on the site from people that have gone through it..
I personally dont think she will recover from this..her dad has also been diagnosed with cancer,so 2005 has been off to a rotten start..
Once again Im sorry for your loss..
PS my cousin is 35..
thank you for your time..
Jewell
Katy <katyluvstherams@hotmail.com> from Derbyshire, England.
Contributed on September 3, 2004
Frankie, you sound a lot like me. You are now in peace. Your story shows that complacency and youth are not the way to go. My sympathies to your loved ones.
Katy
dionna sinclair <dionnasinclair6@hotmail.com> from scotland
Contributed on June 7, 2003
i cannot say how i feel but my heart goes out to you i was 15 when i told i had cervical cancer i never thought it would happen to me . i will be honest i never went for treatment i felt like a guinne pig all the time been proded all i wanted was to block it out im 29 now and its really hit me this time for yrs i hide letters to go to the hospital i never went once i went to the seccion i was the youngest there never again
Jacob Crimmins from SC
Contributed on May 30, 2003
Frankie,
Hey there, I just came to talk to Lynne...wanted to stop in and tell you that I miss your friendship. Thomas is well, he still misses you terribly. He and I share so many things now days.....We were all so close. I hope you and Lynne arent causing too much mischief up there....You should see your name sake, she is just like her momma and even a lil like you I think.
The sun just came out here, are you both smiling again..I miss you frankie, you take care of Lynne for me until I can get there ok..
Hugs
Jacob
carla lesh <cal1522@aol.com> from Connecticut
Contributed on October 13, 2002
I was so saddned by this story I had to write something. I was diagnosed with stage 1b1 in June 2000. Went thru hell and back. When I read this story, It touched me. I was very saddened that this horrible disease took her life at such a young age. My thoughts and prayers go out to her husband, family and friends. She fought as hard as she could against this terrible disease. She will be in my thoughts. I know what it is like to fight cancer and it is very difficult. I thank god everyday that he has given me a second chance. Please know that she will not be forgotten and I share your saddness even though I did not know her. I know that she went through some very intense emotions and feelings going through what she did. I admire her bravery. You should be proud of her.
God Bless you all.
Love
Carla Lesh
lola <LolaUtah@aol.com> from USA
Contributed on September 16, 2002
Frankie;
~I remember you. I remember you. I remember you.~
I won't forget how you lived or how you died. From the beginning to the end, you were loved so much.
Thomas and Jacob,
If you read this, I hope you both feel my thoughts coming your way, today. I cannot think about Frankie, without thinking about Lynne and visa versa. I miss them terribly and I know you do even more so.
Take care and know we have not forgotten.
Love,
Lola
Julie L <miracle44@webtv.net> from Florida
Contributed on September 16, 2002
Dear Sweet Frankie,
It is your first anniversary. I think of you often, remembering how kind and loving you were towards me and so many others. Today is a sad day, for me, I am reminded of how short your life was. It has also been a day of joy, as I have spent much of it rereading the email you sent. All of the love you had, all of the people you helped, all of the inspiration you gave us.
Dear Sweet Frankie,
We All Loved You
Julie
Jacob Crimmins <jacobcrimmins@lycos.com> from South Carolina
Contributed on March 7, 2002
Dear Frankie,
Lynne is on her way to be with you. I will never forget you. You were a part of our family. Lynne missed you terribly when you had to leave us and now you two are now together again. You always were together. Now you will be together forever. I miss both of you. Thomas is coming tomorrow. We are going to the spot where we released your ashes & to Lynne's grave. We hope you will like your flowers. Ya'll don't cause too much mischief, and we will see you one day.
Please give Lynne a hug and kiss for me and tell her that we love her and that Allison Frankie is ok. (she has your name Frankie, I hope she has your and Lynne's fighting spirit.
Until we meet again my friend.
Love,
Jacob
Lola <lola@eyesontheprize.org> from Salt Lake City, Utah ~ USA
Contributed on March 7, 2002
Dear Frankie;
Your dear friend, Lynne, is on her way!
We will never forget, either of you. You two never were apart. Even after you left, Frankie....now I know why.
Love,
Lola
Lola <Lola@eyesontheprize.org> from Salt Lake City, UT
Contributed on January 1, 2002
New Years Day - 2002
To the family and friends of Frankie,
My thoughts are with you all this holiday season.
Frankie surely would have jumped for joy to see her beautiful namesake, Allison Frankie. Allison is a gift, as Frankie's friendship and love was a gift. In this season when we celebrate the gift of love and life, I wish the best always for those who are missing Frankie this time of year.
I wish you each, continued healing in 2002.
With love,
Lola
Lynne <lk_crimmins@yahoo.com>
Contributed on December 15, 2001
Well Frankie, its your favorite time of year, Christmas is almost here. After a year of devastating losses, I have received the best gift ever, Little Allison Frankie. I hope you watch her grow from above, my greatest wish is that she will have all the wonderful qualities that you pocessed. I miss you my dear friend. Your light still shines for all of us that miss and love you.
Lynne
Bernadette Lavin <bernadettelavin@eircom.net> from Ireland
Contributed on December 14, 2001
Dear family
I have just read Frankie's story which is so very open and honest. I was so saddened to read that she is no longer with us. People like Frankie will always remain with us and her posting on this web-site will help so many women.
God bless you all
remembering you in our prayers especially at this sad time
Bernadette
Kathleen Tyndall
Contributed on November 8, 2001
I really don't know where to begin. It was only several days ago that I learned of Frankie's passing while calling about to update an address book. The news has devastated all of us that knew and loved this vibrant, lovely and talented young woman. Life was always so busy that we only really got to see each other over the holidays. This year will be a darker Christmas without her here. Its hard to believe that not even a year later this disease has stolen one of the best and brightest.
I will always remember her beautiful spirit, her lovely smile and the willingness to give a helping hand where ever it was needed. She was an angel that God only lent us for a short time, and we are all better for having her here.
I love you dear friend and I will see you again one day.
Sadly,
Kathleen
Thomas McCullough <thomasw_mccullough@yahoo.co.uk> from England
Contributed on November 8, 2001
It has been almost 2 months since Frankie finished her race, and as the holidays approach I think of her often and seem to miss her more each day. The holidays would really make her light up! The tree would be up after Thanksgiving Dinner and presents under the tree.
The holidays seem to have lost their cheer without her bright smile and thoughtfulness to cheer me on.
My love I miss you terribly and I would give all I own to have you with me for just one more day.
I love and miss you more than anyone will ever know.
Thomas
Lynne <lk_crimmins@yahoo.com> from SC
Contributed on October 24, 2001
It's been a month now since Frankie had to leave us, and there are no words to describe how keenly her absence is still felt by those who loved her.
I still expect to walk by "her" room and see her there, or hear her voice from down the hall. Needless to say, I don't and it still breaks my heart.
I love you Frankie, you were a part of our family, and life without your presence is forever changed for me. I am going to name the baby Frankie, I pray that she will have your gentle but fierce spirit, your knowledge that always exceeded your years and most of all the ability to smile through anything.
I miss you my friend
Lynne
Lola Bogue <lola@eyesontheprize.org> from Salt Lake City, UT, USA
Contributed on October 19, 2001
Dear family and friends,
(and Frankie)
I hesitated reposting again, but it has been a full month, since Frankie passed away. I have gone again and again, to read the new tributes that have come in, I supposed to console myself.
A legacy that was so important to Frankie to be passed on, was that there would be continued awareness, especially to young woman, about the importance of getting their yearly pap smears and gyn screenings regularly. That young girls would learn about their bodies, love them, and be educated about them, so at any first sign for possible trouble, they would seek help.
Even out of "bad," can come some good and through an unusual opened door that is before me, I plan to help, carry on Frankie's wishes.
There is a girls youth correctional facility here, which I have become quite acquainted with recently. With their staff and their teen females in the program, I see weekly. I plan to share the message of good gynecological health in the near future. I also plan to share about you, Frankie, your message and how you wanted them "to know." If even one girl, genuinely hears the message and applies it, then your work, Frankie, continues. From my lips to their ears, they will hear your "voice".
I am grateful this opportunity that has presented itself. You dear Frankie have seared "your voice," deep inside of me. When I see these girls each week, I hear you, and your message is so needed.
I salute your memory, my sweet young friend, a month later. You did so well, while you here. I miss you, but I'm doing fine.
Love,
Lola
Loree Thompson-Jones from Tulsa, OK
Contributed on October 3, 2001
I am just now able to post my condolences to Frankie's family. I have been at a loss since hearing the news. Frankie was one of the sweetest ladies and a cherished friend and confidant. Our times in college were spent living life to the fullest and reaching for the stars, now Frankie is one of heaven's brightest. Thomas, my heart breaks for you, I know how much Frankie loved you and you her. In time I hope you can come to terms without her here. When I last saw her it was right after her diagnosis and I never once saw her fall apart and I hope that if I am ever faced with such tragic circumstances I can face it with the same courage and determination that Frankie did. She was an inspiration to all that knew and loved her. I will miss her forever.
With Tears,
Loree
Jeffrey from New York City
Contributed on October 2, 2001
To Frankie's family and friends, my heart breaks for you. I just learned of Frankie's passing and to hear the news was like a sharp blow to the heart. She was like a sister. My wife and I were to fly down and see them this December. Alas I waited to long to see her, and now all I have is cherished memories. When we would go dancing till dawn and since our spouses both had two left feet she was my dance partner, the ultimate dance partner and friend. I remember when we decided that we couldn't date, we made much better friends. Frankie was a wonderful person and an even better friend. She never once backed down from anything, not even cancer. I will always remember her unique sense of humor and that smile that could brighten anyones day. My lovely friend, I will miss you, and one day we will dance again.
Sadly,
Jeffrey
Kim from Greenville, SC USA
Contributed on October 1, 2001
Frankie was not only my sister, she was my best friend, confidant and my shoulder when life was rocky. Life without her will be forever different, a little darker, a little more somber. I will always remember her contagious laugh, her beautiful smile and her attitude that inspired others around her to reach for the stars. She made everyone around her feel as though they were the best!! My heart breaks knowing I will never again see her smile as she plays with my son, her smile as she walked through her gardens and would stare out at the ocean. She was and will forever be my baby sister and I will miss her the rest of my days. I love you Frankie, I look forward to the day I see your beautiful smile again.
Kim
Marcia Lee-Smith
Contributed on September 30, 2001
We never exchanged any mail. We never said a word to eachother, but I will miss her forever.
Marcia
Carol Farley <carolf@dargate.com> from Pittsburgh, PA
Contributed on September 29, 2001
Frankie:
How very sad to lose you. My deepest sympathy to your husband, family, and friends. The love they have all shared with you is so evident in all the tributes here.
Your life and struggle with this vicious disease has touched so many. Thank you.
Carol
adenocarcinoma cervix 1b
Dan Hemminger <hemmidr@essex1.com> from Sterling, IL
Contributed on September 26, 2001
To Frankie's family I send my condolences as my wife was diagnosed with cervical cancer stage 3B in December of 2000. In July 2001 it was found to have spread to her para-aortic lymph nodes as well. Again my condolences to Frankie's family.
Dan
Katie from Colorado
Contributed on September 24, 2001
I was deeply saddened to hear of Frankie's passing. We were roommates in college. I will always remember her goofy sense of humor and the smile that would light up the darkest room. When I lost my mother, Frankie was my strength, a shining light during the darkest moment of my life. I learned many lessons from her and she will be greatly missed. My heart breaks for Thomas, I remember your wedding day, you were both the picture of happiness. That is how I will always remember you dear Frankie, your light will always shine in the hearts and minds of those who loved you then and will love you for all their lives. I will miss you, my sweet friend.
May God wrap you in his warm embrace and receive you in glory.
I will never forget you.
Katie
Careen from England
Contributed on September 24, 2001
I have been deeply saddened to read of the loss of Frankie, but perhaps through her story, more young women such as myself will take positive action and attend screenings. I received my notification that I'm due for cervical screening a few months ago. The thought of the embarrassment and discomfort put me off. After reading Frankie's story, I've decided to put it off no longer.
May you find comfort and peace in God at this time of sorrow that only you can feel.
God Bless You
Careen
Cyndee DePastino <DOCCynderella@aol.com> from Pittsburgh, PA
Contributed on September 23, 2001
Frankie was to me, a friend, a cyber sister, fighting the beast that we all share.
She was so young, but so wise and taught me much to my surprise.
Frankie was gifted and very aware of the pain she endured, but to us tried to spare, any pain that we felt on behalf of our friend.
She guided and comforted each as they came and held out their hands, drawn to her flame.
Her flame was composed of love and of care, for each woman she touched, she would always be there.
Frankie now is at peace, and in angels' care, she has nothing to fear and will always be there.
Frankie reached out and touched us all so deeply. I will cherish the time she spent with us just being Frankie!
I wanted to write something in tribute to Frankie and thought of a poem I came across in my late Grandmother's Bible. I don't know who wrote it, but I would like to share it, it's how I think of Frankie.
Do not stand by my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleeep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am a diamond glint on snow.
I am sunlight on ripened grain,
I am gentle autumn rain.
When you awake in the morning hush,
I am a swift uplifting rush, of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starshine at night.
Do not stand by my grave and cry.
I am not there
I did not die....
God's Peace, Frankie!
Terri Simmons <simmons99@onemain.com> from Southern Illinois
Contributed on September 23, 2001
In the short time that I knew Frankie she became an inspiration to me and I would like to honor her by posting this poem. I hope that you all find comfort in it and I know I have.
I will hold you in my heart Frankie, I miss your kindness and your humor. You were a very loving and gentle person. I know that heaven has gained a wonderful person. You won the race sweetie, its your time to shine!
With this I dedicate this poem to you:
AND I WILL LIGHT A CANDLE FOR YOU
And I will light a candle for you
To shatter all the darkness and bless the times we knew.
Like a beacon in the night
The flame will burn bright and guide us on our way.
Oh, today I will light a candle for you.
The seasons come and go, and I'm weary from the change.
I keep moving on, you know it's not the same.
And when I'm walking all alone
Do you hear me call your name?
Do you hear me sing the songs we used to sing?
You filled my life with wonder, touched me with surprises,
Always were that something special.
And through good times and the bad,
We carried on with pride.
I hold onto the life we knew with you.
And I will light a candle for you
To shatter all the darkness and bless the times we knew.
Like a beacon in the night.
The flame will burn bright and guide us on our way.
Oh, today I light a candle for you.
Author Unknown
Love,
Terri L. Simmons
Cervical Cancer - Carcinoma In-Situ DX June 2001
Teresa <MTCruse@aol.com> from Nevada
Contributed on September 23, 2001
I have been extremely saddened my the news of Frankie's death. Frankie was such a loving and generous woman. No matter what she was going through she always has a kind word of encouragement for others. I know how difficult it will be for Frankie's family and friends to go on without her. Although you won't have her physically, you will always have the wonderful memories you made with Frankie. Please know that Frankie touched many lives!!
Susan V. <sungodess321@aol.com> from Cocoa, Florida
Contributed on September 20, 2001
I was so sad to hear of Frankie's passing. I was in a state of shock and depression the day that I heard. Frankie was such a sweetheart, so giving and kind, always reaching out to others here at EOTP. I will miss her. Even though I didn't know her in person, I had a special place in my heart for her. She was so courageous. My deepest sympathy goes out to her friends and family.
Nancy W. <springleafe@aol.com> from New Providence, Pennsylvania
Contributed on September 18, 2001
I know you don't want me to cry, Frankie, but I am doing it anyway. And I just know you would forgive me for it. I miss you something awful, kiddo, and those "goofy" chats we had. You could always make me laugh. I will always admire you for the way you stood up against this disease. Your memory will be with me always and you will continue to make me smile!
My sincerest condolences to all of Frankie's family and friends, and especially to those of you who were brave enough to walk the journey with her. It is comforting to know she had you there by her side till the very end. The contributions she made to this list to other women facing cancer need not be spoken aloud. You can see her shining brightly through her posts. It is with great sorrow that I read the news of her passing but I am glad her struggle is over and she is at peace. She will truly be missed here by all of us.
Sincerest sympathies to all of you,
Nancy W.
Jean W. from Ottawa, Canada
Contributed on September 18, 2001
To Frankie's friends and family I extend my deepest sympathies. By making her own choices about treatment and by deciding to reach out to help others with humour and compassion, Frankie showed us all that freedom is possible even in the most diffcult circumstances.
Shirley Schutt <shirleyschutt@huntel.net> from Eastern Nebraska
Contributed on September 18, 2001
To family and friends of Frankie,
The short while I knew Frankie, she was my mentor.
She *knew* the answers to the questions I had, she had already been there. She shared her wealth of knowledge so openly. She will always live in my heart as she will live in the hearts of so many.
We mourn, but she is now free of pain and suffering. Could we ask for more for our dear ListSister? RUN, Run Frankie, you've WON!!
Katie Allen <stories@eyesontheprize.org> from California
Contributed on September 18, 2001
What terribly sad times these are. I was only beginning to know the gentle, soft, sweet, young woman that was Frankie, and now she is gone and I never will. And I am much poorer for that. Wise beyond her tender years, she had much to teach us all. We will miss her. I send my heartfelt condolences to Thomas, Frankie's husband, her faithful friend, Lynne, sister, Kimberli, and all her friends and family. Thank you for letting her end the race the way she wanted.
With love,
Katie
angi marek <marektwo@ameritech.net> from Cleveland, Ohio
Contributed on September 18, 2001
Only know her from reading her posts, hope she knew me the same way, I asked all of my sisters to pray for her, guess we didn't pray hard enough, or else, since I always ask God to do what is best, that this is the best thing. Love You Frankie!
Shelley Black <shelblack@hotmail.com> from Toronto, Canada
Contributed on September 18, 2001
I am so very sorry to hear of Frankie's passing ; my heart just sank & I spent a quiet moment at my desk thinking about her. Reading her posts always made me feel such great warmth & respect toward her that in the face of so much uncertainty & personal suffering she continuously reached out to others in time of need over & over again. Even though I never met Frankie & did not post to her directly,everything she wrote on the list revealed so much about her character. What a brave & courageous woman...
My sincere condolences go out to her family & friends.
Alexis Bryson <alexisbryson@netscape.net> from Columbia, SC
Contributed on September 18, 2001
I send my thoughts and prayers to Frankie's family and Friends..
I was a volunteer at the cancer centre where Frankie had been receving treatments. She was an exceptional lady. Never once did she complain, cry or ask why me... She dealt with this disease with courage, dignity and compassion. She will be missed by all who knew and grew to love this gentle lady.
God Bless..
Alexis Bryson
Jayne Hodson <jayne.hodson@schroders.com> from UK
Contributed on September 18, 2001
I have just visited EOTP and read about Frankie finishing the race. It seems like only yesterday I was reading about her fight with this terrible desease and now she is gone.
I would like to pass on my sincere sympathy to all of the family.
God bless you all.
Lynne "Kelley" Crimmins <lk_crimmins@yahoo.com>
Contributed on September 18, 2001
Dear Frankie:
Through all the years of our friendship I never thought I would be facing what I now face. In college we had our lives all mapped out. Things were so simple then. We dated, we went to parties, we talked politics and our futures. You grew to be a vital part of me, even when we were apart we had the ability to pick up right where we had last left. You taught me to have compassion, to show understanding, to have tolerance and most importantly to give all I have to each day.
You lived you life with such gusto and you posessed such tenacity!! The words "impossible" and "I Can't" were not in your vocabulary.
My sweet friend, I will see you again one day, and I hope I can face the end of my race like you finshed yours with dignity, honor and peace. I will remember you all my life.
God Speed my friend,
Lynne
Thomas McCullough <thomasw_mccullough@yahoo.co.uk>
Contributed on September 18, 2001
My Dearest Frankie,
My love, my light, you were the better part of me. I will forever miss the way you would light up a room whenever you came in, your gentleness, your kindness, your 500 watt smile, the mischief that would sparkle in your eyes. You are the love of my life and you will live on forever in my heart and the wonderful memories we share.
Dear love, I will see you on the other side.
Thomas
Carole Moomjian <rakkestad@sprintmail.com>
Contributed on September 18, 2001
Your light shined brightly during your brief stay.
Your compassion and kindness knew no limits.
Your bravery was inspiring.
As long as there are those who were touched by your spirit, you will live on.
Rest in peace, dear Frankie. I will never forget you.
My deep condolences to Frankie's husband, sister, and Lynne, a very special person.
BONNIE DOPKOWSKI <TAZ200642@cs.com> from IRWIN PA.
Contributed on September 17, 2001
TO ALL OF FRANKIE'S FAMILY AND FRIENDS:
I AM VERY SORRY FOR YOU LOSS, FRANKIE WAS A VERY LOVING AND CARING PERSON. SHE WAS ALWAYS THERE TO GIVE SUPPORT TO ANYONE THAT NEEDED IT. SHE WILL BE MISSED VERY MUCH. I SEND ALL MY LOVE AND PRAYERS TO YOU ALL. I LOVE YOU, FRANKIE, AND I WILL MISS YOU.
LOVE, BONNIE
Lenora <nuitnoel@yahoo.com> from Maryland
Contributed on September 17, 2001
My thoughts, love and prayers are with you. You are a champion.
Love
Lenora
Eva Wojtowicz <ewojt@bellatlantic.net> from Danvers, MA
Contributed on September 17, 2001
To Family and Friends of Frankie,
Please accept my deepest condolences. Frankie was our friend and she changed our lives, she taught us how to appreciate every moment of life. I'll always remember the picture from the Space she sent us. She is watching the Earth from the distance now.
She set an example for us that will never be forgotten.
Peace be with you,
Eva
Jax <jakeau@earthlink.net> from Massachusetts
Contributed on September 17, 2001
To Frankie's family, friends, husband Thomas and personal angel, Lynne "Kelley", my condolences and wishes for healing. It never easy to say goodbye. We all feel bereft when we are left. Still, I trust that Frankie is in a place where she can run with a whole body and laugh with her whole heart. To those of us at EOTP who she graced, we are grateful. To those of you who held her hands, kissed her forehead .... we cannot know your loss.
Lovingly,
Jax
Geraldine <secretarial2000@aol.com> from UK
Contributed on September 17, 2001
FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS
God looked around His garden
And He found an empty place.
He then looked down upon
This earth and saw your tired face.
He put His arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best.
He knew that you were in pain.
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.
So He closed your weary eyelids
And whispered, "Peace Be Thine."
He then took you up to Heaven with
Hands gentle and so kind.
It broke our hearts to lose you,
But you did not go alone.
For part of us went with you
The day God called you Home.
Hugs & Kisses
Geraldine
http://www.gyngals.com
Janet Nelson <runningmom99@hotmail.com> from Tennessee, USA
Contributed on September 17, 2001
To the Familiy and Friends of Frankie, I send my deepest sympathy. Frankie made a profound impact on my life in the short time she was on EOTP list. Her wisdom, empathy and contributions to all of her list sisters was awe inspiring. I will never forget her ability to soothe others when she, herself, was facing so much. She was an incredible person!
To those family and friends, who stayed by her side in the end, I'd like to say a special thank you. Thank you for being there for her, holding her, and comforting her.
Michele T <zmommy@earthlink.net> from Philadelphia PA
Contributed on September 17, 2001
I was deeply saddened to read Lola's email to our EOTP list informing us that Frankie had finished the race yesterday morning. I am having a hard time putting my thoughts into words today, but wanted to let Frankie's friends and family know how much she touched me. From the moment she joined our list she was a shining light, full of powerful energy. She was open and honest with us about how she felt, yet protective of the impact her last lap might have on the newer members. Many times I found myself struggling for the words to tell her how I felt about her posts, but hope that she felt the hugs I sent and the good thoughts I always felt for her. I mailed Frankie a card last week that probably didn't make it to her in time, but I want her friends and family to know that sentiments of my card hold true for them also.
Julie L <miracle44@webtv.net> from Florida
Contributed on September 17, 2001
Still Still with Thee
When purple morning breaketh, when the bird waketh, and the shadows flee. There in the morning lovelier than the daylight dawns the sweet conscientiousness I am with Thee. Alone with Thee amid the mistic shadows. The solemn hush of nature reborn. Alone with Thee in breathless adoration, in the calm dew and freshness of the morn. So shall we be at last in that bright morning, when the soul waketh and lifes shadows flee. Oh for that hour in the dawning shall rise the glorious thought. I am with Thee.
The love and compassion that Frankie had assures me that she is now safe. But she will be missed!
Karen from Alberta, Canada
Contributed on September 17, 2001
Hi,
I only knew Frankie via her messages to the EyesOnThePrize email support group over the past several months, but it is obvious she had wisdom beyond her years, and a truly inspiring zest for life.
To her family and friends, my condolences for your great loss. My thoughts and prayers will be with you all.
To Lynne "Kelley", this is a poem that Frankie posted in June. Thank you for being there.
The Friend that Just Stands By
When trouble comes your soul to try,
You love the friend who just "stands by."
Perhaps there is nothing she can do--
The thing is strictly up to you;
For there are troubles all your own,
And paths the soul must tread alone;
Times when love cannot smooth the road
Nor friendship lift the heavy load,
But just to know you have a friend
Who will "stand by" until the end,
Whose sympathy through all endures,
Whose warm handclasp is always yours--
It helps, someway, to pull you through,
Although there's nothing she can do.
And so with fervent heart you cry,
"God bless the friend who just "stands by'!"
Peace and blessings,
Karen
Georgia P <ashbroke@earthlink.net> from Massachusetts
Contributed on September 17, 2001
"Our" Frankie was a very special person. Her grace and dignity, even as she faced the worst of times, was a light which shone from within her. The courage she exhibited - the love she exuded - and support she offered, even as she needed that support herself - this is "our" Frankie.......
She was lucky to have good friends, her sister, and husband to walk with her as she neared the end, and I want to thank you all for trying to provide what she needed.
I will always remember when she chose to fulfill a life-long wish, to go to Greece, when she had to realize her days were drawing to an end. She chose the higher road, and made every day matter when she could.
I would be proud to call her MY daughter.
Love,
Georgia
Patricia Walters <pwalters@sover.net> from Vermont
Contributed on September 17, 2001
All I knew of Frankie was what she contributed to EOTP but that was enough to show she finished the race with pride and dignity.
I hope I will do as well when it is my time to cross the line.
"Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May she rest in peoce. Amen."
Patricia
with tears
Teresa Smith <tesmith@state.pa.us> from Pittsburgh
Contributed on September 17, 2001
I was deeply saddened when I read my mail this morning and learned of Frankie's passing. I am pretty new to the list but just from reading Frankie's e-mails over the last month or so makes me realize we have lost a very special person. My condolences go out to her family, friends and everyone here at EOTP.
Sue Donley <SueD@eyesontheprize.org> from Pittsburgh, PA USA
Contributed on September 17, 2001
"The time of my departure has come.
I have fought the good fight,
I have finished the race,
I have kept the faith!
Henceforth, there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness,
Which the Lord will reward to me on that Day!" (2 Tim. 4:6-8)
I hope you aren't feeling exhausted and defeated, Frankie, because you HAVE won the Prize! You HAVE overcome cancer and you have fought the good fight.
For the time you ran this race, you never let the disease win. No matter how dark things looked along the path, you never gave in to bitterness, selfishness, or despair. You always found a light -- a hand to reach out to someone else. The Beast never got the best of you -- you always came through with your beautiful self intact! THAT is the victory in this Race! YOU are the Prize, Frankie!
I'm cheering you on as you break the ribbon at the finish: YOU GO, GIRL! You are our hero! You've WON the race and have shown us all how it's done!
We love you, Frankie, and I thank God we've had this time to run by your side!
Love,
Sue D.
Lola Bogue <Lola@Eyesontheprize.org> from Salt Lake City, Utah, USA
Contributed on September 16, 2001
My dear Frankie, "fearless spirit"
( also Lynne "Kelley" & Jacob, Kimberli, and dearest husband, Thomas)
I write this with the deepest sorrow today. I did not want this day to come. I cannot explain with words how you, Frankie have touched my life and forever left an imprint on my heart. I will never forget you. I am deeply grieved you had to leave us so soon.
To her family:
Frankie told me, "not to cry," but I know she would want me to let go with my tears. She told me "not to be sad", but she would have been the first to help me shoulder my sorrow.
She faced her life's race with focus, power, and determination. She claimed the path she was given to travel and walked it with the utmost of dignity. I will never forget the kindness of her voice. I will miss her terribly.
To Thomas: I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I could ease your pain. Your wife was a blessing to us all on the EOTP.org disccusion list. Thank you for sharing her with us. She taught us so much.
To Lynne - You stayed the course. You didn't grow weary in "well doing." You protected and nurtured Frankie during her darkest days. I will continue to be forever grateful that she had you by her side. Thank you for all you did for her, Lynne.
I am sending my love and prayers to each of you, for the days ahead.
Love,
Lola
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